Recently I attended an event where couples came to meet potential doulas. There were a few things that were said that made my ears prickle. One was from a very enthusiastic, young doula. She said repeatedly in her conversation about empowering women, that being her job. I do not empower women. A woman has power within her. My job is to help her find her power. It seems like semantics- but I find one way a doula can disempower a woman is to make her dependent on you as her doula to find her power. I want a woman to learn how to find her own power. Then it is my job to encourage her to use it.
“Do any of you go with your clients to a prenatal appointment with their care provider? I’ve heard of this and wonder how common it is? It seems like a good way to build rapport with providers. Any downsides to this?”
And Maria Pokluda wrote,
Class preparation helps them to find their tools and their voice. A prenatal meeting is a time to discuss the tools they want to use and how they see their journey unfolding. Birth is a time to trust and believe and allow themselves to become parents. Those around them should be supporting and encouraging during the journey. Hopefully, they will not feel the need to be protected from those who are there to support them.