I have been thinking a lot about what is the most important thing that i can impart to a pregnant mom to prepare for labor. As a crone ( the older,wise woman, healer and guide). I would have to say it is learn to let go of fear. We have clouded birth with so many fears and horror stories, it is no wonder that women enter this time with such trepidation. At one time it was a mysterious time that was not discussed. Those women were often given drugs so that they had little memory of birth and therefore it was indeed a mystery. Then for a short time, natural birth was promoted and it was a time of wonder and power. But then medical advancements allowed medication to be safer and women did not even venture into the time of being able to find their power and strength.
If I were to sit with you, talk openly about birth- what I personally experienced and the over 670 births I have witnessed, I would tell you about how strong you become during labor. I would tell you that you are stronger than you ever imagined you could be. I would tell you that as your labor unfolds, you will know what to do- whether it is to move, or howl or ask for medication and intervention.
I can tell you stories of watching women become warriors. I can tell you of incidences where women reached down deep within and found a strength they had no idea even existed. My advice as an experienced crone is to tell you begin to look at birth as a mystery that will unfold. You need not know the journey’s path to be able to walk it. Just walk it with courage. Let go of the stories you have heard. Don’t listen to the naysayers. Move into the mystery with curiosity and openness. Embrace the unknown and step into your labor without fear.
You were made for this. Your body is ready. Your baby is ready. Let go.