There is a secret in our culture,

And it’s not that childbirth is painful,

It’s that women are strong.

-Laurie Stavoe Harm

Why are we so scared of pain? Why do we think we can not do it? Why do we believe we have a low threshold of pain in birth? Why have we bought the lie that we are weak? Why have we allowed birth to no longer be our journey that allows us to see our strengths? Why were the women before us able to handle it? What made them so different from us? Why do we see the pain of childbirth as being bad rather than good pain? Why are we so scared to see it as a challenge before us instead of something to run from?

Women of Earth
Take Back Your Birth!

… I just blogged about the medicalization of birth and then laid back down to try to sleep- I woke really early today and did not sleep well… and the phrase just get screaming in my head… Did God screw up?

Women do not allow their bodies to signal when to go into labor these days- instead doctors or midwives determine that their babies are due… so did God screw up?

Women are not allowed to stretch as their bodies were meant to stretch when giving birth- instead doctors cut episiotomies believing that a baby is not really meant to fit through that space…Did God screw up?

The hormones we were given as women to signal our uteruses to contract used to be enough to bring out a baby- but today doctors and midwives have come to use synthetic hormones- oxytocin to bring about contractions…Did God screw up?

One in every three women today in the metro area of Atlanta will have her baby cut out of her- cesareans are on the increase, do women no longer have the capacity to birth their babies out of their bodies…Did God screw up? (more…)

I submitted an outline that Polly Perez and myself worked on entitled “Life is a Journey…no one gets out alive- What to do When Meconium Hits the Fan” – it is about what you do when things that you plan don’t happen the way you expected them to. It is about healing- who to turn to and what you personally can do to heal. It is about how you can help those who are going through a tough time to heal- what you can say and do.

It was something we submitted to CAPPA for the next conference- but they wanted me to do a ton more to it to get the outline ready for submission for CEUs and wanted it to be a break out session- with a minimum number signed up for it three months in advance- and with the 3Day walk for Breast Cancer in front of me- (more…)

… there are so many great things about being a doula- but one of the hardest parts is being on call and not ever knowing when the call will come to be with a mom in labor. It is hard- sometimes you want to stay up late and not pay any attention to the fact that you could be called out in an hour and spend the next 24 hours working without any sleep in view.

woman waking

It is hard- sometimes thinking that you don’t want to be “on” today. You may want to go to that event and not have to be concerned about your phone ringing… hang with those folks and be able to be carefree. But the phone may ring any time- if may not be super great timing each time- but it all falls into place very quickly… you get up, shower, get dressed and grab your gear and go.

Then you are able to be doing what you love to do… being with a mom as she journeys to being a birthing woman… with her partner as they watch the power the woman has within her… and most of all to view the power of birth- the miracle of the first breath… and that is the best part of being a doula!

Seems my grown children feel I may have a legacy of ideas to share…whether it be quips and quotes or anecdotes… so I am going to try to share ideas and thoughts- some random and some specific to my work as a doula, to my life as a cancer survivor and as a woman warrior.

Sometimes our lives seem so normal to us but as we share what is going on in our specific lives they seem to fascinate others… and at the same time sometimes the things that we find exciting and wonderful seem mundane or uninteresting to others. I guess you can take or leave that which interests you.

If my words in any way can inspire or guide you, great. If it causes you to think differently than you did before, that is expansion. And if it causes you to rethink some things that you had not given thought to before, that is growth.

I feel blessed with my given career- which I feel is a calling to serve in such a wonderful way. I am led to be a doula by the life I had lived up to that point and the life that I must have lived in the past somewhere. I feel blessed with having had cancer and being able to view the journey from the side of survivor. I think it is important to listen to our voice that God has given us from within… I will share with you how doing that probably saved my life and indeed kept me from having to have chemo…

I thank my kids- specifically Jami and Brok for encouraging me to make this blog… thanks for believing your mom has something worth sharing!